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Yes, things have to change. If things or people are not changing then they are dying, literally. Many times people are averse to change because they want things to stay the same. When we prevent change from happening we are restricting growth and opportunity. No change is not always positive and has a large effect or reward, but it is one of those things that you just won’t know unless you put yourself out there. Change can be painful and costly, but the greater the risk, greater the reward. Or so they say. Changes can range from death, illness, geographical, relationships or leadership either at church or in government. Is it bad if it hurts or I do not want to change? No, it would be odd if you desired constant change, especially big ones. Adjusting to change takes time, patience, and sometimes even professional help to get through it in one piece. Asking for help should always be allowed and accessible. Not only professional help, but seeking care and guidance from those around you. Family, friends, neighbors, or even co-workers are great resources to help when you are going to need help through a period of adjustment.
What Does Change Mean?
Change can come out of nowhere or be planned for quite a while. When change comes out of nowhere it can be assaulting our sense of reality and priorities. We often take offense to change when it comes out of nowhere and is unwarranted. There are many emotions that come with changing our life. It can be happiness due to a positive change, such as beginning a new relationship or adding to the family. Or it can be the other extreme of a sudden accident that causes a negative reaction within our family. This can cause fear, anxiety, and uncertainty of the future. Change is how we know we are still alive. If you are not changing, you are dying. Changing is a natural part of life and the only way to grow as a person. The sooner we can make peace with the amount of change that is needed in our life to be positive and productive the more able we are able to realize the changes in our life are not always negative or detrimental that are required.
Change Your Mind
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Not only do we need to accept change in our life, we need to change our way of thinking. The biggest hurdle is to not focus on things that are outside of our control, but things that are inside of our control. Many times we think that if something is in our environment that we have control over it. There is actually very little that we have control over. If we can allow the people in our life to take control of their responsibilities and their priorities, the sooner we will be able to focus on what is within our power. Change can sometimes mean a loss or attacking away something that was very precious to us. Even though change can be a loss it is not always seen as a failure, but as an opportunity.The old saying is true for every closed door there’s an open door. This is also true to change for every period of change there’s also a new opportunity to improve yourself and improve your life and improve your environment. There is power in positive thinking. If we have a negative outlook on any point of changing our life, I can guarantee that it will be a negative experience. Negative thoughts predict negative thoughts, positive thoughts, predict positive thoughts, if we can transfer our negative thoughts, not wanting things to change mindset to growth changes good mindset.When the real work will begin and will be able to see the fruits of our labor.
Create an Environment of Growth.
The quickest way to get to know someone is to hang out with their friends and family. It is true that birds of a feather flock together. You need to create an environment of growth in order to help you to positively navigate change in your life. You can create this environment with family, friends or leadership that is around you. You can rely on these people to help you through difficult situations making decisions for what is best in your life or simply to have someone to talk to when the guy gets tough. There are never any right or wrong decisions. There are only what is best right now decisions. What is best changes from day-to-day week to week year to year. You have to constantly evolve in your life to stay up-to-date with what’s best for you at the moment. There are many communities that are available to help with this environment of growth. Since the pandemic, there are numerous support groups online through social media. Online communities are a great resource however, there is nothing that can take the place of in person, human interaction. People need people. It is important to surround yourself with people who are successful who have gone through some hard things who can help you navigate along the way and that you can rely on when you’re having trouble with the change in your life. Seeking professional help is also a great way to foster an environment of growth, whether it is through a therapist or a counselor, either individual or to focus on the relationships in your life.
Get Off on The Right Foot
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If you wake up in the morning and say it’s a good day to have a good day. You will have a good day likewise if you get up and say this is gonna be the worst day ever nothing’s gonna go right I can guarantee you. It’ll be the worst day ever and nothing will go right. Are you able to speak into the universe or manifest? What’s going on around you. No, I don’t think so, however, mindset is extremely powerful. You can have two people who have the same shared experiences, but have completely different perspectives and mindset. There’s no reason to enact big huge changes in your life just in one day. I think that that is unrealistic and setting yourself up for failure. If you were able to make such big changes, then you wouldn’t really be in the place where you’re contemplating the level of changing your life. Making small incremental changes over time day by day week by week can make exponential growth happen in your life, which will only cause you to show what you have reached in your life. Setting goals is a great way to get off on the right foot. Goals are wonderful, but they mean nothing if they are specific. They let you know where you wanna be and where you wanna end up. However, goals mean nothing if you do not know how to measure whether you’ve reached the goal, whether they’re realistic, whether they’re actually attainable or if they don’t have a deadline.
Take Care of You
In order to be in a place where you can accept change and make the difference in your life is to take care of yourself. There’s so much talk of self-care. Do what you want. Do what you love but that’s really not the point of taking care of yourself. Taking care of yourself is listening to your body and making changes based on what your body is telling you, for example you may be chronically exhausted and your body is letting you know you need more rest. Something is going on the same is true of the saying of the body keeps the score. Sometimes there are people who you have never met them. You do not know their life story but due to how they look physically you can only imagine what they’ve been through in their life.By taking inventory of your mental, emotional and physical well-being, you can keep in check what needs to be addressed. Processing your emotions in a healthy way by being proactive such as going to counseling, sharing with family and friends, journaling or meditating are great ways to get ahead of the issues that sometimes change can bring. Dealing with the emotions in a reactive way is waiting until you’ve already blown up, waiting until the damage is already done to relationships and by that time, it is often too late. All of these things will help you to engage in your life and reduce stress, which will help you to take care of yourself mentally and emotional emotionally and physically
Be Open
You have to be willing to adapt to your environment and things that are going on internally if you want to survive. The moment you do not begin to adapt to your environment your environment will overcome you. Buying pricing a growth mindset of I need to learn I’m not always gonna get everything right but I can always do. My best is a great way to be open to change to accept new responsibilities and opportunities in your life. You will absolutely make mistakes in your life. You don’t know what you don’t know you will need to forgive yourself for actions and choices that you made in a time where you did not have the resources around you and you were simply doing your best. You have to move forward into the future knowing I know better so I’m gonna do better now. Allow yourself to rebel in the fruit of your good choices that have resulted in positive and exponential change in your life. It’s OK to celebrate the wins, whether small or big. It does not mean that you were being boastful or that you don’t have any humility. This world has kind of turned anything that you’re saying into being too proud or not being honest enough. Really you just have to stay in your lane and know what is best for you. What is best for your family and walk that out. Adjusting to change in your life is a marathon and not a race. There is no quick way to go over it or around it. You have to take your time and walk right through the changes in your life whether they are positive or negative. Give yourself grace and be kind in this process again forgive yourself for choices that you made when you simply did not know better when you know better you do better.
Get Help Now
At Cypress Roots Counseling, we understand the struggle that individuals and couples face today and want to come alongside them to help them on the marathon of relationships. By scheduling a consultation you can meet with a therapist to discuss your needs and goals. It is never too late to seek counseling for yourself, your relationship or your family. Trust your instincts and the feeling that something is not right and get help today. Our team would be honored to offer support from our Palestine, TX office or Fairfield, TX office. With multiple locations, Cypress Roots wants to make accessing therapy easier than ever. By offering in person appointments or telehealth, we are removing barriers from receiving counseling. Get started today by giving us a call at (903) 300-2705, emailing us at jaclyn@cypressrootscounseling.com or by clicking the Request appointment below.
Other Services Offered at Cypress Roots Counseling
We understand that you may be dealing with more than one or many mental health, relationship or parenting concerns. Cypress Roots Counseling offers individual and couples counseling, as well as parenting help. Ethical, professional and confidential services are what you will experience at Cypress Roots Counseling. There are many types of counseling, but at Cypress Roots you will encounter CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Solution-Focused Therapy, Gottman Method (Couples) Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and Emotion Focused Therapy (Couples & Individual). Services are now available to Spanish speaking individuals and families. Los servicios están disponibles con un proveedor que habla español.
